Ask yourself the following questions.  If you answer 'yes' to some of them, Al-Anon can help you.

illions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close.  These 20 questions are designed to help you decide whether you need Al-Anon.  If you answer yes to some of these questions, Al-Anon may help. Check out the Meeting Schedule for information on meetings in your area. 

• Do you worry about how much someone else is drinking?

• Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?

• Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?

• Do you feel if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?

• Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions?

• Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?

• Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?

• Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath?

• Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?

• Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?

• Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?

• Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?

• Do you search for hidden alcohol?

• Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking? 

• Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?

• Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to in order to control the drinker?

• Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?

• Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?

• Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?

• Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?
  

Did You Grow Up With A Problem Drinker?

lcoholism is a family disease – Those of us who have lived with this disease as children sometimes have problems which the Al-Anon program can help us to resolve. If you answer yes to some of these questions, Al-Anon may help. Check out the Meeting Information section for information on meetings in your area.

• Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?

• Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?

• Do you fear criticism?

• Do you over extend yourself?

• Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?

• Do you have a need for perfection?

• Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?

• Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?

• Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?

• Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?

• Do you isolate yourself from other people?

• Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?

• Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?

• Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?

• Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?

• Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and abusive?

• Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?

• Do you mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?

• Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?

• Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?